Ladies..what is going on here???

Ok so firstly I am going to apologise for my absence. I have been quite surprisingly busy now that exams are over going out, partying and most importantly sleeping!! Anyway that sums up why I have been quite crappy replying to most of your personal messages to me but now I’m back!

           

Ok so ladies what’s with all the running after and pining for guys?! Why are you girls chasing them? Ever heard the quote “don’t chase em’, replace em’”?? What is going on??

So most of you have developed a crush on someone playing you hot and cold or have been lead on only to be dropped. Instead of getting smart, even or getting over it your pining! Why??

Its pretty simple, if a guys playing you hot and cold chances are he can’t make up his mind about you or from his pick of girls. If a guy leads you on and drops you, chances are you didn’t hold his attention long enough and he’s on to his next shiny toy. Either way your just an option. (This doesn’t apply to all guys just mainly the players!)

You don’t have to like what I’m saying. I might be blunt but at least I’m honest! And I’m not gonna give you some crappy advice about how he likes you really or I’m sure what your hearing isn’t true or how he’s not worth it cause realistically he isn’t but that’s not why we’re reading this blog. In theory all this typical, comforting advice makes you feel a little better at the time but it doesn’t actually do anything for you apart from that. Your still gonna feel crappy about it.

So for all you readers out there relating to this post or asking for advice this is what I propose. Pick one of the following:

GET SMART

If the guy plays you hot and cold or leads you on don’t put all your eggs in one basket and all of a sudden declare this relationship to be ‘the one’. Be smart, know where your heads really at and don’t get in over your head. Most of us have that annoying habit of being swept off our feet by a few sweet words. Remember it’s so easy to say a few sweet things. Don’t fall for everything you hear. If you know its time to cut your losses and get out, your probably right.

GET EVEN

This can be disastrous but can also be entertaining. Play him hot and cold, lead him on, do all the things he would do to you, say to you back. Guys love to be challenged, they love the chase. Stop running after him, otherwise your not much of a challenge and they’ll see no point chasing you. The best way to get attention is to stop giving attention. That way he’ll crave attention from you and try to gain it. But you also need something that’s gonna make him intrigued by you, make him wanna chase you. Something to draw him in. Find out what it is and dangle it in front of him but don’t ever let him catch it. You have to be cool, collected and smart. Most of all you have to think like a guy. This can honestly be so entertaining but it can be disastrous if you fall for his bullshit, give in or feel sorry for the way your behaving and pay him more attention. Don’t let him get one over on you! Keep your emotions in check and try to think what would he do and do it better. A loose example would be the movie ‘John Tucker Must Die’ but you don’t have to go as over the top as they did!

GET OVER IT

It is what it is. What’s done is done. If you don’t care to under go the first two options then do just that. GET.OVER.IT. and move on! Simple as that.

That’s it. That’s my advice in a nutshell. If it helps great, if not then not. Remember not all of these will work for you. Find the one that will and you have to adapt it to your guy and the way you are.

Guys like a challenge and girls like to prove their worth. How would I know? Lets just say I used to be a typical guy when it came to relationships. I had no problem playing the game that all these guys are more than qualified in. I got away with it the way they do and I was never suspected the way they are. My motto used to be “play the game or get played”. And I guess it kind of helps when most of your boy mates used to be and some still are the typical players you know. I would never let them near any of my girl friends but have no problem running to them for advice or hearing their latest entertaining scandals.

Anyway hope this helps! It might sound a little extreme but I don’t really hear a better option from anyone else. Try it and see. Good luck ladies!

-WARNING: MAKE UP TALK!!!-

Ok so this is totally random but people keep asking me to write a blog on this so they can read it so here you go…

-I WARN YOU IN ADVANCE THIS IS MAKE UP TALK-

Ok so I’m a girl so yes I love make up but no I’m not crazy obsessed with it. I could easily go out with no make up on.

So here are the facts some of you keep asking me about.

Things I swear by if I need them:

FOUNDATIONS

Don’t really wear foundation because I have really clear skin but if I had to choose the best one by far is Este Lauders Double Wear Light. Easy to apply, medium coverage and won’t sweat off or smudge or transfer on to anything. Incredible staying power.

POWDERS

I have a mac compact but to be honest I actually think its quite shit! I usually take it on a night out just incase but I don’t really use it that much. Best powder by far is Bare Minerals powders! Absolutely love it! Just research is because I swear by it! A drug store brand that is also quite good but quite sheer is Maybelline Dream Matte Powder.

BLUSHERS

Again not something I really use because my skin has a red undertone especially in my cheeks so I have a natural blush but if I wear foundation on my cheeks I love to put Nars blushers on top or better yet the Chanel blushes!

BRONZERS

Bare minerals warmth is like a natural touch of sun but you have to be so careful with how much you put on. A little really is a lot!

EYE SHADOWS

I Like Mac but I’m not so in love with it that I have every colour but I do have a few. Too Faced and Urban Decay are good and a few other brands like Lancôme, Dior, Elizabeth Arden and so forth. I tend to like browns, mushroomy, browny purples, natural colours but that’s not to say I love wearing a smokey eye look or other colours I don’t normally wear.

EYELINERS

If I could only wear one product it would be this. Almost half the time it’s the only thing I do wear make up wise. I only use liquid so surprisingly Rimmel’s liquid eyeliners. If I had to choose pencil eyeliner it would be Urban Decays 24/7 eyeliners.

MASCARAS

Lancôme Hynose or Hypnose Drama is incredible for lengthening, thickening and volumising your lashes. And I really am talking from experience. I cannot express how many mascaras I have tried! But if you want thicker, volume lashes this really is amazing.

CONCEALERS

Don’t really wear these but the Dior Skin Flash is sooo much better than the YSL Touché Éclat in my opinion and apparently the opinion of so many others who have used and reviewed both. Also Mac is pretty good.

LIPSTICKS

Love Lancôme’s colour fever or L'Absolu Rouge range. Both ranges are amazing if you’re looking for a red lipstick. I’m really impressed with Nars lipstick pencils as well but my latest addiction is the new Dior Addict lipstick range. It goes on a smooth with a little sheen and leaves a subtle stain.

LIP GLOSSES

Kinda over gloss but a really good lip gloss that I love would be the Too Faced Mood Activated Lip Gloss in the fuchsia colour. It leaves a really nice stain to your lips.

LIP BALM

Elizabeth Arden is my addiction in this department with her Eight Hour Cream Lip Protectant Stick Sheer Tint in blush or berry. I honestly have never used a simple lip balm since I tried this. This goes with me absolutely everywhere!

In the middle of nowhere..Not Anymore!

Ever been stuck in one of those relationships that are nor here nor there. One of those more than friends, less than lovers and to top it off, miles apart of distance making the relationship a bit more impossible. Well I am, or at least I was.

The guy had always been a good friend, until he turned in to more. Although we were on the same page, nothing more could come of us for the time being as we were miles apart. The distance would be too hard. So from then to here we continued to carry on the way we were. But as time passed my feelings grew stronger and I began to want more from the relationship. Apart from physical contact, it lacked an emotional ground. He had more than just an insight into my life, whereas I only had a glimpse into his.

My attempts to make us closer failed miserably, leaving me to question what really ever was the foundation of our relationship, if you could call it that even. I wondered if we were just meant to be friends but his reluctance to give me up and his talks about the future, our future proved me so wrong. We were just stuck in the middle of nowhere, never really going anywhere and he was happy to remain like this. I was not.

So now I’m leaving. I’m going away for a while. Following my own sense of direction wherever it leads me I guess...

"I’m gonna go away, I’ll be back but I don’t know if I’ll want to. You have the opportunity, the chance to catch me before I go or never catch me at all. Because if I come back I’ll be coming back as just me, not as yours or as me and you. All this time I’ve felt partially bad, for leaving you. I wanted to make it last, make us last even if that meant I was away but you can’t even make it last when I am still here. So I’m gonna go away, on my own little adventure, coming back with stories to tell, but not coming back to you."

Why I Have A Wall..?

My friends say no matter how close someone is to me there’s still a part of me they can never get to. A part that I never let anyone see, or reveal. This part is so hidden that people can never pin point what they think it is. So well concealed they have no idea how to get to it. I was once told that I would be a good at poker because I have a good poker face, I show no specific emotion. I supposedly have this wall that no matter what you do you can never penetrate it or get over it. Irony of the situation is that even I didn’t know I had this wall. I always thought I was quite open with people, when your close to me you know your close to me, you’d never have to doubt that. But somehow it seems even the close ones feel miles apart from me. Always an arms length away. And I can’t help it. To be honest I don’t really know how to explain it or let alone know how it got this way or when. How do I even explain it to myself. I guess I’ve always just been used to being the one who takes care of people. The majority, more or less all my relationships with people consist of me being there the most when people need me, even if they can’t admit it. But whose there for me? I know it sounds weird but although its not intentional, we’ve all had friends which we lean on a bit too much and when its their turn to lean on us we’re far too busy to be there let alone notice. And I guess in that time I learned to lean on myself if that makes sense. Be strong for myself. Be the stronger one out of all my relationships with people. But it doesn’t mean I’m not weak or crumbling inside when things go wrong. It doesn’t mean I don’t need someone to be there for me to make sure I’m ok. I’m just too strong to admit it because I feel like I need to be. I’m so independent I don’t really need looking after but sometimes its what I want and need the most. Does this even make sense why I have a wall?

Where's the beginning for you?

We all go through life forever changing, evolving, growing up. Some more than others. And as we change and grow older so do our perceptions and our outlook on life. Some find ourselves doing things we never thought we would or that we could, the rare few of us actually seize the opportunity to take what we’ve always wanted and most of us still have no clue what we want or where we’re going but just that we’re still moving. But it all comes down to the same thing in the end. What we want now will still be the same as what we wanted before. Sure we may have tweaked that idea a little, got a little sidetracked but it’s still the same concept as before. It’s like they say ‘at the end you always think about the beginning’ and when you feel most lost you tend to go back to the start. So where’s the beginning for you? Where did it all begin? This crazy journey? The reason why you do the things you do? Why you are the way you are? For those of you who know who you are and where you’re going, congratulations and for those of you who are still trying to find your way, figure out what you want, keep going. There might be some light at the end of that tunnel after all.

Goodbye..For Now

Why are goodbyes so hard? Is it because we’re saying goodbye to a happy memory, a time, a place, a person. Or is it because we know that this particular time, this particular place, this particular person, this very moment will be forever gone and it’ll never be the same again. Change is inevitable whether we want it to happen or not, but yet we find it increasingly hard to wave goodbye to the routine we’re so used to whether we’re happy in it or not. All those moments we never grabbed, all those words left unsaid, all the times we’d tell ourselves we’ll do it another day, another time. And in our final goodbyes we’re saddened because we know this is the end and we regret all the things we didn’t say and all the things we didn’t do. We wave goodbye to the ones we love giving promises to see each other again soon and we even wave goodbye to the ones we know we’ll never see again but that we’ll never forget. And as you part your separate ways your saddened by the knowledge of knowing your paths only momentarily met but were never entwined. And then you’re left with a question… where do we go from here?

Who would you keep? Who would you forget?

Once you put someone in your heart their always going to be there. You can’t get rid of them no matter how much you want. But if you could get rid of someone, if you could choose who could remain in your heart and who couldn’t…who would you choose? Who would you get rid of? Who would you keep? Who would you forget? It’s hard when the ones you love tend to be the ones that hurt you the most. I know they say the ones you love should never hurt you but no ones perfect, we all make mistakes. But if you could choose would it be easier? Or would it just mean your lying to yourself? Sometimes there are reasons why people are in our heart, why they remain and why they never left, no matter how black and white the picture is.