Ladies..what is going on here???

Ok so firstly I am going to apologise for my absence. I have been quite surprisingly busy now that exams are over going out, partying and most importantly sleeping!! Anyway that sums up why I have been quite crappy replying to most of your personal messages to me but now I’m back!

           

Ok so ladies what’s with all the running after and pining for guys?! Why are you girls chasing them? Ever heard the quote “don’t chase em’, replace em’”?? What is going on??

So most of you have developed a crush on someone playing you hot and cold or have been lead on only to be dropped. Instead of getting smart, even or getting over it your pining! Why??

Its pretty simple, if a guys playing you hot and cold chances are he can’t make up his mind about you or from his pick of girls. If a guy leads you on and drops you, chances are you didn’t hold his attention long enough and he’s on to his next shiny toy. Either way your just an option. (This doesn’t apply to all guys just mainly the players!)

You don’t have to like what I’m saying. I might be blunt but at least I’m honest! And I’m not gonna give you some crappy advice about how he likes you really or I’m sure what your hearing isn’t true or how he’s not worth it cause realistically he isn’t but that’s not why we’re reading this blog. In theory all this typical, comforting advice makes you feel a little better at the time but it doesn’t actually do anything for you apart from that. Your still gonna feel crappy about it.

So for all you readers out there relating to this post or asking for advice this is what I propose. Pick one of the following:

GET SMART

If the guy plays you hot and cold or leads you on don’t put all your eggs in one basket and all of a sudden declare this relationship to be ‘the one’. Be smart, know where your heads really at and don’t get in over your head. Most of us have that annoying habit of being swept off our feet by a few sweet words. Remember it’s so easy to say a few sweet things. Don’t fall for everything you hear. If you know its time to cut your losses and get out, your probably right.

GET EVEN

This can be disastrous but can also be entertaining. Play him hot and cold, lead him on, do all the things he would do to you, say to you back. Guys love to be challenged, they love the chase. Stop running after him, otherwise your not much of a challenge and they’ll see no point chasing you. The best way to get attention is to stop giving attention. That way he’ll crave attention from you and try to gain it. But you also need something that’s gonna make him intrigued by you, make him wanna chase you. Something to draw him in. Find out what it is and dangle it in front of him but don’t ever let him catch it. You have to be cool, collected and smart. Most of all you have to think like a guy. This can honestly be so entertaining but it can be disastrous if you fall for his bullshit, give in or feel sorry for the way your behaving and pay him more attention. Don’t let him get one over on you! Keep your emotions in check and try to think what would he do and do it better. A loose example would be the movie ‘John Tucker Must Die’ but you don’t have to go as over the top as they did!

GET OVER IT

It is what it is. What’s done is done. If you don’t care to under go the first two options then do just that. GET.OVER.IT. and move on! Simple as that.

That’s it. That’s my advice in a nutshell. If it helps great, if not then not. Remember not all of these will work for you. Find the one that will and you have to adapt it to your guy and the way you are.

Guys like a challenge and girls like to prove their worth. How would I know? Lets just say I used to be a typical guy when it came to relationships. I had no problem playing the game that all these guys are more than qualified in. I got away with it the way they do and I was never suspected the way they are. My motto used to be “play the game or get played”. And I guess it kind of helps when most of your boy mates used to be and some still are the typical players you know. I would never let them near any of my girl friends but have no problem running to them for advice or hearing their latest entertaining scandals.

Anyway hope this helps! It might sound a little extreme but I don’t really hear a better option from anyone else. Try it and see. Good luck ladies!